How to Make the Holidays Really Count:
We all know how precious time is with the ones we love. It’s extra extra precious when we don’t see them as much as we’d like to!
If you’re one of those who wishes you never ever saw ‘em, then this guide could help you understand why or even change that all together.
Now, let’s get the best juice to squeeze ratio for this trip…
- Shut Up with the Small Talk
Questions about the weather and “what’s new” are superficial blocks that keep us from getting to what strengthens connections. You may have only a few days or just hours with this person! Don’t throw it away just to hear “60 degrees and windy”.
- Open Up
To be trusted, one must trust. We should aim to be our authentic selves around those we want to cultivate truthful, deep connections with. A brilliant (if we don’t say ourselves) conduit for understanding, deepening, and laughs is a humble box filled with pieces of glossy paper that may just be the secret sauce to enhancing your relationships.
- Ask Yourself How You Feel About / Around a Person
Emotional inventory is crucial to keep track of especially during the hustle and bustle of the holidays. Noticing how someone makes you feel is a cheat sheet to figuring out what you want out of your relationships. Does this person make you feel heard? How do they do this? What makes you feel the way that you do around them?
- Steer the Convos
If someone asks you how the weather is in your city feel free to run them over with your car.
All jokes aside, anxiety isn’t uncharted territory during the holidays. This can be due to big questions and expectations (ahh, the best side dishes for the tofurkey). If you’re made to feel uncomfy by, say, a question about dating or work prospects, it’s perfectly reasonable to say “I’m working that through with myself first and foremost. I’ll be more comfortable talking about it down the line. But I appreciate that you care.” And voila! If they don’t respect that, they don’t deserve any pie.
- Take Time to Just Be
The further we get into adulthood, the more pressure we have to make every moment matter; every second is scheduled or nearly everything is done with a specific end-result in mind. As wonderful as it is to be goal-oriented, rockstars, we also need time to just be. With no goal, no expectation. Just taking in the present. This allows for impactful conversations, ideas, and feelings to flow, seemingly out of thin air.
This is YOUR special time. Grab it by the cranberries and make it count. You’ve got this.
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